Welcome to the May 2014 Useletter!
You can watch the video of this month’s topic here.
Plus you can watch the latest Quick Tip videos below:
Positive Self Image
Leading Innovation and Change
Coping with and Overcoming Failure
Mother love – just for Mother’s day
And here is this month’s message…
Is it just me, or do you also notice more insecure people around you on a daily basis? What do I mean by insecure? Well, those people that are continually short tempered, don’t have many good things to say about you, or others, tend to be aggressive in traffic, are always pessimistic about the state of affairs around them, from their home life, company life to politics. I especially notice this on the day before a long holiday weekend. It’s as if they all appear out of nowhere, as if they have climbed out of their hiding places all around town, and they overrun the local supermarkets and buy up all the meat, cold drinks and alcohol as if there is no tomorrow. They run in, push you out of the way, grab items before you can pursue the choices, and basically acts like a pack of wild dogs. Ever noticed this?
We just had a long weekend and I had to drive my daughters to another town. Of course working for myself, I am not aware of public holidays, or bank holidays. As I was driving, I noticed a particular frenzy on the roads. Call it aggression, call it stupidity, or even insecurity – there was a definite different vibe! I don’t know why, but I turned to my youngest daughter and just popped the question whether it was a long weekend tomorrow.
I had, just by observing people’s behaviour around me, made a correct conclusion.
By the time I had returned home that evening, I was completely irritated (Yes, I too am normal) and couldn’t understand why people just zone out like that, and in masses. It’s like a collective consciousness signals everyone to act stupid! It’s similar to the collective swarming behaviour exhibited by animals of a similar size.
The first thing I thought, please don’t ever let me sit in the middle of these people, if there is a natural disaster anywhere. They will kill each other in their individual need to escape.
Have you ever flown out of an airport on a long weekend, or at the beginning of the holiday season? Here’s some really good practical advice… and it’s free – DON”T! I spoke about it in a previous ‘Useletter’ a while back. People become Plunkies! (They take a ‘stupid pill’ and act like ‘monkeys’)
Why is this? If anything, this behaviour simultaneously frightens and worries me. Suddenly I want to go live on a desert island away from the sheeple mentality masses!
I did a bit of research on the Internet, looking for a simplistic answer and Wikipedia talks about mass hysteria, also known as collective obsessional behaviour. A common example is when a group of people believe they are suffering from a similar disease, or ailment – also known as epidemic hysteria!
The more I read these words, the more they make sense and I come up with my own version…. epidemic sheeple hysteria!
I’m also a realist, and feel that people can’t work each other up so quickly – or can they? Just look at a simple political scandal. Within minutes people are phoning each other, sending emails, posting comments on Twitter and Facebook and news is spread world-wide (city or group wide) within minutes! It’s actually scary how fast information (good and bad) is shared today.
Now what has this got to do with the wacky long weekend aggressive sheeple mentality? I can only postulate one possible answer – maybe there are so many overworked people who hate their jobs so much and are so desperate to get away, that they flip out when they can have a long weekend? This desperation of having ‘me time’ is so powerful that anyone who steps in their path, or slows them down, or infringes in that time is trodden on – so to say!
Does any of this sound familiar?
If yes, then you need to ask yourself some questions about your life and your work.
When you wake up in the morning on a work day – are you miserable?
Do you lack passion and drive when at work?
Do you really look forward to weekends and especially long weekends?
Do you already become depressed on a Sunday afternoon as Monday is looming around the corner?
Do your negative feelings and stress affect your family and your health?
Do you feel underutilized, not respected, dislike certain colleagues, and feel you are not liked either?
All these issues, plus many more can contribute towards this weekend sheeple mentality. Did you answer yes to any of my questions?
If you did, don’t feel badly. There is nothing worse than being unhappy and it is the most natural thing to want to run away as fast as you can from that which brings you no joy. It is even more natural to get aggressive, rude and walk over anyone that gets in your way when seeking happiness and me time.
So what is the solution? What can you do to become part of a more balanced, calmer individual that respects their fellow human beings at all times – even bank holidays!
Firstly, be honest with yourself. If you are unhappy in what you do – change! You cannot blame anyone else for your unhappiness. You and only you are responsible for your life and your career. If you feel you cannot change, because the pay is too good and you have to cover expenses pertaining to a certain lifestyle standard – then don’t complain! Remember, it is still you who has decided on that lifestyle. This gives you no right then to disrespect others.
Stop being a sheeple! Just because everyone else has satellite TV and the latest smart phone, does not mean that you need it too. Nor will materialistic items guarantee your happiness. This mentality of, “When I have this, then I will be…” is STUPID!
The longer you allow the mass media, and everyone around you to dictate your state of mind in terms of social and cultural conditioning – you cannot have a positive self-image and find contentment.
The older I get the more I tend to think about life and philosophise. My biggest issue these days is questioning the purpose of life. I had a friend a year ago that hated his job. He was one of those people that looked forward to his weekends. He used to tell me that his dream was to travel and that one day when he retired, that’s what he would do.
Well he died a year ago (in his forties), and unhappy at his lot in life. In the end he was really bitter. Today a year later, his job is filled by someone else. His teenage children are carrying on with their life. And his wife has just started socialising again and met someone new. Besides the memories his family and a handful of friends have, what did he leave behind? What was his purpose? Life carries on. The sun still rises and sets. People still go to work every day and children still go to school. Has his life left a gaping hole? Has the world changed for the worse because of his absence?
The sad answer is, “No!”
When you die, will it be the same answer after a year? Or will people really miss you? Will people still talk about your passion and energy? Will people still talk about the long term changes you brought about in your career, family and for humanity? Will you be mentioned in the history books? Will you be seen as ‘the one who made a difference’ in your family tree when people look back in 500 year’s time?
Do you get my point?
If you are sitting through life, paying your dues, waiting for the weekends to arrive and lacking purpose in life, then you could very possible have that aggressive sheeple mentality. However, if you have searched within your soul and identified the real you and are following your passion in life, then just maybe you will be the person future generations read about in their history books.
And by the way, each and every one of us has that potential to be great. We just need to stand up and find our greatness! Guess what, when you start changing you suddenly notice all the sheeples out there, and instead of falling into that mass behaviour statistic, you suddenly feel sorry for them and you begin trying to help and guide people towards the light.
Just for one moment, imagine that everyone started caring, helping and guiding everyone around them to become a more positive person.
It all starts with you!
So today when you leave work, let the aggressive driver in front of you get ahead. Smile at him. Put your music up and sing in the car. When you get to the supermarket, stop and smell the flowers at the entrance. Smile at the people passing you. Take your time and look for items you never noticed before. Buy something new. Come home and hug your family – tell them you love them. Phone a friend you haven’t spoken to in a while. Start living in the moment so that life’s moments can grab you!
I hope you have an awesome May!
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