And here we are again, another month is behind us and the season is slowly starting to change again.
Many people emailed to say that my ‘Quotations on Time’ video didn’t work… hee-hee, I had a spelling mistake which was kindly pointed out to me – so I pulled it and fixed it. Here is the new link!
All new video links are at the end of this Useletter, and this month’s topic is Coping with Mistakes and you can watch the video version here.
I constantly question myself whether age is affecting my thinking, or whether the fast paced world we live in today is changing people’s thinking?
One of my biggest disappointments about humanity is that so few people are prepared to acknowledge and accept their mistakes, and forever find excuses to push the blame on others.
What puzzles me is why these people don’t realise that it is only through making and ACKNOWLEDGING our mistakes that we can learn and grow as human beings.
Albert Einstein once said, “Anyone who has never made a mistake has never tried anything new.”
How true is that?
Consider today’s world, then this quotation could not be more pertinent now than ever before. Reality is that the person who does not keep up with change will be left behind. Part of changing is to embrace the new and making mistakes – this is how we learn!
Think about it this way, if someone in your family, social circle or work colleagues makes a mistake which could affect your health and safety, would you be happy to hear about it two weeks later when much irreversible damage has been done? How would you feel towards that person? Or would you like to hear about it straight away? How would you feel about this person in this instance?
Personally I would respect anyone far more if they came to me immediately after the mistake has happened. I could then even assist it helping fix the issue at hand. As humans we intrinsically enjoy helping others and guiding them to success. The problem comes in when we are only told half-truths and asked to help in order to ‘cover up mistakes.’
Are you someone that has a hard time owning up to your mistakes? Do you feel embarrassed by your mistakes? Does it make you feel silly, or even stupid?
Guess what – everyone has these feelings, BUT not everyone sits back and accepts them. You need to do something and take action in order to gain back control.
Firstly, you need to learn to cope with your mistakes and deal with them in a positive way. This is only possible if you understand why we make mistakes. Hence I thought I would share a number of reasons with you why NOT making mistakes is bad for you.
1. Mistakes are stepping stones to happiness
You gain confidence, courage and experience every time you make a mistake. When you identify exactly what you want and can see this in your mind’s eye, nothing can stop you from moving forward, nothing can stop you from achieving your dreams and allowing happiness to enter into your life.
2. Mistakes help us lead a life without regrets
How many older people have you met in your life that say, “I wish I had tried that when I was younger.” Today they sit unhappily retired and only have regrets about their lives. Here’s a reality check, if you only play it safe and do what is expected, and follow the masses you won’t make many mistakes, and you will always remain in the space you are now. Do you really want to look back at your life one day and wish you had tried or done some things? It is far better to try something and not succeed, than to never try something and also not succeed. Regret is the worst depressant on earth – do you want to let it control you, or do you want to take control?
3. Mistakes teach us forgiveness
With every mistake that you make, you learn how important it is to forgive not just yourself, but also those around you. Even though you want to be, you are not perfect! In fact perfection doesn’t really exist, as it is a subjective perception unique to each and every individual on this earth – we all see it differently. The closest any of us will ever come to the concept of perfection is by doing the best we can, at all times, in everything that we do.
4. Mistakes help us let go of our fears
Not making mistakes is the biggest mistake you could ever make? Remember, life isn’t about avoiding mistakes, but rather about embracing the idea that mistakes is a reality in your life. You just need to decide whether you are willing to learn from them or not!
5. Mistakes result in growth and progress
Without mistakes you cannot grow and evolve as a human being? Just think of your social circle and the people you know (including yourself) that have allowed the fear of making mistakes paralyse them? You cannot expect to learn anything new if you don’t allow yourself the opportunity to make mistakes?
6. Mistakes help us discover who we are
We discover more about ourselves, who we are, our limits, our capabilities, and what we can and cannot do. Mistakes guide us to be more compassionate and tolerant with ourselves and others.
7. Mistakes teach us valuable life lessons
You can learn so much from your mistakes, and the moment you see them as lessons rather than mistakes, you negate the fear of encountering them in your daily life.
Guess what, if you do ‘go for it’ you won’t make all the mistakes you were scared of making, and when something does go wrong, the world won’t end and everyone won’t be pointing fingers at you. It will only be you that needs to come to terms with the mistake and learn from it.
So what happens when you do make a mistake? Easy, own up and acknowledge the mistake. Now talk to those close to you and ask for help in correcting it. Whether it is a family issue or a work mistake, as a team it is so much easier to resolve a problem than as an individual. Remember that other people may have made the same mistakes as you. By talking about it they can guide you to a faster solution. This also allows you to examine the mistake from various perspectives and discover the reason why it happened. Don’t lose sight of the bigger picture! Mistakes are like stepping stones across a river, there are many of them, but the final goal is getting to the other side. The focus should be on progress, rather than fear of making more mistakes.
That’s it; I trust these tips will guide you to a more fulfilled life.
Talking about mistakes, many companies mistakenly attempt change that fails. Here is a great video on how to avoid the pitfalls of organisational change by applying a Force Field Analysis – it’s called ‘Planning Successful Change. Click here to view.
Brand new Quick Tip: The Roller coaster of Life. Watch here. Cool full roller coaster footage – play it full screen!
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Have a great July
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