Welcome to the September, the official change of seasons and the move into the latter part of the year.
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It’s amazing how many people send me bits and pieces of information to share in this ‘Useletter.’ I have now collected enough ‘bits & pieces’ to share a potpourri of 12 wise proverbs/quotations & insights around the theme of living in the moment. Today we get caught up with way too much nonsense and let every small issue affect our day. Here are insightful tips to help you along your path in learning to savour every moment.
1. Do not regret growing older, it’s a privilege denied to many!
This is a powerful proverb to start with, so true, but so rarely thought about. Having just turned 50, it’s a saying that hits home very powerfully, and yes, maybe it is aimed at the baby boomers and above. But even if you are 25 and reading this, it applies. Whatever you age, consider for one moment the people in your lives that are dead today. How many were younger than you? That’s when this proverb hits home, when you realise how lucky you are to be the age you are, and healthy. Consider two people in their seventies, one still drives a car and enjoys life, the other has Alzheimer’s and needs to be under 24/7 supervision. If you are fit and mentally in a right state of mind – it’s time you give thanks and smile for every morning you wake up alive and healthy.
2. I’ve seen better days, but I’ve also seen worse. I don’t have everything that I want, but I do have everything I that I need. I do wake up with some aches and pains, but I wake up!
Another life truth, similar, but with a different twist to the above. Here’s a reality check, things do go right and things do go wrong. We are mostly healthy, but we do get sick. We are conditioned to want things, but these things don’t bring us inner peace, contentment and health. It’s about learning to be thankful and making do with what you have. It’s about learning that we do not need much more than the love of our family and friends, our health and food in our stomachs. Basically we don’t need much. Learn to be happy with your lot in life, and life will start making so much more fun.
3. Live your life and forget your age.
Another magical quotation and one that many people need to practice. Ask any older person how old they feel, and I guarantee you they feel and think way younger than their real age. Also, when we get older, we are conditioned to act our age. By following this advice, unhappiness is the result. Life is short – to constantly act according to what others expect of you is sad. Learn to live in the moment and make the most of every moment. If you want to laugh, if you want to scream, then do it! Live life to the fullest. Live YOUR life, not the life others dictate you must lead.
4. Spending time with your children will give you way better memories and is far more important than buying them things.
In today’s crazy technology and information overload society it has become way too easy to put a child in front of a TV game, than to actually stop, listen and spend time with them. We complain that the youth is messed up, but whose fault is it? Did you spend enough time with your children so that they could learn the value of family and time? Think about it!
5. Looking away from your computer while speaking to someone, or putting your phone away and actually paying attention when someone talks to you is possible! There an App for it, it’s called ‘Respect.’
Have we all forgotten what respect is? I don’t get it? People will rather finish sending an SMS to someone and communicate electronically, than stop what they are doing and look you in the eyes and communicate personally. Huh? Try reconditioning yourself and every time someone speaks to you, STOP fiddling with the gadgets and look the other person in the eyes. You’ll be amazed at the deeper level of communication you can achieve.
6. Take care of your thoughts when you are alone and take even more care of your words when you are with people.
Phew! Powerful huh? As humans we tend to brood in our own negativity – STOP IT! Make a concerted effort to think about your ‘private time’ thoughts and work on making them positive. This is the time you should be dreaming about great future plans and loved ones. Similarly when you speak to others, by only talking about negative issues and gossiping, you are actually pushing people away from you. Unlike a magnet, in real life like attracts like. Who are you attracting in your life?
7. Who said that diamonds are a girl’s best friend? What nonsense! They obviously never owned a dog.
Do you have pets? The unconditional love of a dog is just so awesome. I have a small Jack Russell and when I don’t throw his ball, he lies on his back, holds the ball between his paws, and throws it for himself. The problem is that every time I take out the video camera, he doesn’t do it! I still believe that will be a million hit You Tube video! My dogs give me so much pleasure, I can’t imagine a life without them. I’m sure you can share many stories of things your dogs have done, or do, that put a smile on your face, and that are ‘priceless.’
8. Learn another lesson from your dog, no matter what life throws at you, kick some grass over that shit and move on!
And this advice is funny too! Enough said! We tend to harp on the past and create our own sorrow. Have you ever really watched a dog? Whether they fall, they hurt themselves and another dog attacks them… are they still depressed the next day? No! They get over it! Don’t you think you should do the same and kick some grass over all the crap in your life?
9. Nature is cheaper than therapy!
Oh wow! Having travelled the world and seen over 150 countries, I can objectively tell you that the extremes, Arctic, Antarctic, Alaska and the places where nature predominates – those are the places I have experienced spiritual insights and grown. If you live in a city and are having a bad day, just go walk in the park and watch the ducks on the lake. It’s amazing how nature and animals just calm you down. Again we are so conditioned to follow the masses, when peace and tranquillity and no stress are actually on our doorstep, and free!
10. Life is the most difficult exam. Many people fail because they try to copy others – not realising that everyone has a different question paper. This makes me think of that quirky saying, “You are unique, just like everyone else!” Ha, ha! Fair enough, that’s funny, but the reality is we are all different. As humans we have the ability to think and rationalise in our own unique ways. Why then would you want to be like anyone else? I don’t get it? I like being me and unique at that! Be realistic, how can you find happiness and contentment if you judge your life by what crazy celebrities are doing? Why would you want to keep up with the neighbours? Does that change who you are? Maybe it does, I think it makes you stupid! Here’s my view. I had rather be unique and honest to myself and smile at all the people that want to be like me. If only they realised that all they have to do is just follow their own heart. You too can be great and leave a legacy like all the thought leaders of the past – all you need to do is tap into your uniqueness and follow you heart.
11. Here’s a question that needs answering… We still love ourselves even after making tons of mistakes, yet when those around us make just one single one, we hate them for it! Huh? Doesn’t make sense does it? But sadly, that is so very true. From now on, before you judge someone else, look in the mirror and throw that judgement at yourself. Dare I suggest that you won’t like it, as most of the time you will see that same fault in yourself. Another reality check… we ALL make mistakes. That’s part of being human and learning and growing in life. Stop judging others for their mistakes. Rather learn from their mistakes and help them learn too. Imagine if we all did that, how the world would change overnight and how many people would suddenly be forgiving others around them and apologising for being judgmental. Mmn – nice thought, huh?
12. My dad sent me a German proverb last week that I think is apt to end these lessons… “Es wäre eine Freude zu Leben, wenn jeder die Hälfte von dem täte , was er von dem anderen verlangt.” And for those of you that don’t understand German, I’ll translate it… It would be a pleasure to live, if everyone only did half of that which they expect others to do. It all boils down to the fact that we are quick to judge others, but how often do we look into the mirror when being judgmental? We tend to like sitting in front of the television, making comments and statements about the lives of other people we hear about, rather than getting our own lives in order. So, as the seasons change, how about making it a goal to start changing the way you think and to start looking for the good and beauty in those around you. Remember, we all have different talents and interests that are unique to each of us individually. Understand that someone else won’t necessarily see the world the way that you do. Bear in mind that they may not do a task in the manner or the speed that you can do it. Respect each other’s differences and strive to become tolerant of those around you. In the end, you will chill too!
You now have some serious food for thought for this week. Go on, I dare you – make those changes and change your whole attitude in life!
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