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This month’s topic is about Entitlement Thinking and Scarcity Thinking attitudes and how to cope with people that have them.
What a great topic… however, it’s one of those subjects that whatever you say, someone is going to get offended… especially those people guilty of the Entitlement and Scarcity Thinking. Luckily as I get older I am becoming more thick skinned and it doesn’t bother me… plus now that I know I have genuine people on this subscription list that want to be inspired, I am sure you will take my comments in the positive manner I mean to share them with you.
The start may seem negative. Remember, it’s like going to your doctor – he/she has to find the root of the problem, and then only can the treatment begin!
So I need to discuss the root of the problem first!
Is it just me, or are these Entitlement/ Scarcity Thinking people gaining in numbers?
My comments are not based on research, they are my personal opinions and I would like to believe are based on my experiences traveling around the globe.
Bottom line, if you don’t have time to read the rest of this mail – I believe we are dealing with individuals here that don’t want to take responsibility for their own lives.
They were not born like this; they were conditioned by their culture, society and parents throughout their lives. They are a product of the society we live in today! Some of us are more prone to conditioning than others, and our live paths take us on different journeys. Without wanting to sound arrogant, I believe that some people have just managed to cope better with all of this and understood that life is about making choices and that only you can be held accountable for the choices you make. Then you have those that don’t want to take responsibility and find it easier to blame others and find fault in others, rather than admit their own shortcomings.
I trust you understand that my focus is on helping you cope, being positive and sharing practical life skills. I won’t tackle political or religious issues as there will always be someone that gets offended. However, in these instances, and to track down the source of problem and why these individuals are not taking responsibility for their own lives – I have to tackle these topics.
Think about it for one moment… do you trust the politicians in your country? In fact do you trust any politician anywhere? I don’t want to point fingers to any one country, but economically the world is completely messed up because of corruption and greed by politicians. And whenever a problem pops up NO ONE, especially not the politicians, takes blame for their inefficiencies. If anything they blame their predecessors. So who do people have to look up to, or learn the meaning of taking responsibility in their own life? Nobody! Let’s not even mention sports stars and celebrities – they are all weird and when they do get busted for taking drugs or anything similar – there is always an excuse of abuse (physical or psychological) as a child. What a sad state of affairs!
Even worse are all these self-righteous groups or minorities. If there are a thousand people in a group and one lone individual doesn’t agree with the majority – he/she makes a stink and complains and all 999 now have to accommodate this one schmuck. Sorry, but what is wrong with this story? And yes, the politicians are now all screaming ‘political correctness.’ They of all people – how hypocritical!
Have we as a society not become too accommodating of others? I find that many people rather oblige the ‘complainer’ and in the process give up their own rights. Kind of messed up huh? Religious fanatics expect you to adhere to their laws in their country and follow their teachings, but when they come to your country and you expect the same in return – they call it discrimination! Go figure!? Then if you do query the logic, you are labelled as discriminating against them.
Is it just me, or are you too confused by all of this? In fact I am not confused, just irritated as the depraved stupidity levels that society has allowed itself to stoop down too.
And hey, guess what, I can’t blame the Entitlement Scarcity Thinking people of being the way they are – because we allow them to and they get away with it. Why should they change? They are only benefitting from their behaviour and attitude… sadly because we allow it!
There is an acronym KISS. It stands for Keep it Simple Stupid! Corporations and governments like to hide their inefficiencies and flaws in complexity. In reality, simplicity is the most difficult thing on earth to achieve – or not. Maybe we have just been conditioned to believe this!
If I look at humanity, surely there are a few basic rules that apply to ALL of us, no matter what nation, culture or race you are from. And if we all followed these basic rules, then we would be able to live in peace with each other.
So in order to find coping mechanisms when dealing with people who have Entitlement and Scarcity Thinking attitudes – apply these 6 rules in everything you do, and especially when confronted with these people, leaving them with a choice – to either fit in, or leave.
Take RESPONSIBILITY for your own life
NEVER pre-judge anyone you meet
Treat everyone equally
When you meet people that do not respect you, or appear to be selfish/feeling entitled and not open to reason – walk away! NEVER stoop down to their level. When you stop tolerating their behaviour they will have to change. Remember, walking away is not being judgemental. You are taking responsibility and making a choice that suits your life – not theirs. But again, always bear points 1 – 3 in mind and make sure that you are NOT the one with the entitlement/selfish attitude.
It all boils down to the 4-way test that acts as the guiding principle for Rotary members:
Is it the TRUTH?
Is it FAIR to all concerned?
Will it build GOODWILL and BETTER FRIENDSHIPS?
Will it be BENEFICIAL to all concerned?
6.) In the hope that this crazy ‘political correctness’ phase doesn’t get out of hand, you need to realise that they are the ones who have their own issues they need to sort out. Rather than getting annoyed with them, you have two choices:
a.) feel sorry for them and walk away
b.) or stand up for what you believe in and don’t let this person force their insecurities onto you. But if you do choose this approach, do it courteously without being rude.
I trust this gives you a better understanding and helps you cope with these people.
All that is left for me to say is that I wish you an awesome holiday season and look forward to another year of positive inspiration.
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